Posted by: eacadoption | 12/24/2010

The Perfect Christmas Present

With Christmas arriving tomorrow, we thought it would be a great idea to share a story of one of our EAC family members and how they received their child right before Christmas!  Meet the Robins and this is their story:

After we adopted our 2nd daughter from Vietnam, we knew we weren’t done! After writing “3rd Baby” on the tub of infant clothes, it was only a matter of time. And three years later we began the process of adoptiong our third daughter, this time from Guatemala.

After our dossier was in, we happily accepted the referral of our daughter on my birthday! What a gift! 7 weeks later, I was on my way to Guatemala for a visit trip! In town, my mom, sister, and mother-in-law. It was an incredible experience to share with all of them and one we will always remember.

The trip was incredibly easy and our daughter was beautiful and very healthy! The information we received from her foster mother was not only helpful but encouraging. She was receiving excellent care and meeting her foster mother relieved any worry I had about her care during my absence. The obvious bonds these babies establish with thier foster mother really helps nourish the ability for these babies to establish strong bonds quickly with their adoptive parents.

Of course, the wait for our daughter to come home was a little less than anticipated! Arriving home on December 23rd, Sophia became a wonderful Christmas present for us and her big sisters Brenda (6) and Juleie (3)! Her arrival was as smooth as the first two and it’s like she’s always been here. Her health is excellent as is her demeanor. Her big brown eyes and dimpled smile melt our hearts and anyone that sees her.

Thanks again EAC for giving us the opportunity to expand our family to 5!
You did it again!

Sincerely,
Robins “family of five”

Please note that the names of the family members have been altered to protect their identity and privacy.

If you’re planning on adopting an older child and/or child with “special needs”, there are a few things to consider.

To see if adopting an older child or a child with “special needs” is right for you, we ask that you look over the following:

  • The older a child, the more of a past that they bring and possibly more behavioral issues.
  • You will need to take a great deal of time with them to attached and bond. *Also, you will need to give them inner strength to deal with over stimulation and the triggers from their past that will create hurdles in their lives.
  • You will need to contact your insurance company to see what type of medical and/or therapies are covered.
  • Should surgeries be required, additional time must be spent on attachment and bonding.
  • Therapies of any kind are costly and time consuming.
  • You may have many sleepless nights as children may really struggle with moving forward and leaving their past
  • Realize that this will be an ongoing journey and they need your patience and understanding to move forward in their lives.
  • Make sure that your discuss this as a couple because it will be a huge adjustment to your marriage and your family dynamics.

We understand that considering adoption is a large step and we are here to guide you in anyway that will help you make the right decision for you and your family.  If you would like to speak to someone on adopting an older child or a child with “special needs”, we would gladly help.  Just visit us at http://eaci.com or call us at 866-586-5656.

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/23/2010

Adopting Sibling Groups

If you’re planning on adopting sibling groups, we recommend that you take in consideration the following pointers…

  • Just because they come from the same family background, doesn’t mean that they have the same recollection or the same experience.
  • They are individuals with their own personalities, so may handle things differently.
  • Future triggers of their past my be different for both.
  • Give each child their own time for adjustment, attachment, bonding, and development.

To speak to a consultant to see if sibling groups are right for you and your family, please visit us at http://eaci.com or give us a call at 866-586-5656.  There are siblings and twins waiting for you!

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/22/2010

International Adoption Checklist

Yesterday, we just finished up our three series to help you prepare for your journey with international adoption.

Here is a quick recap of all our tips so that you don’t miss any of them.  Be sure to write them all down before you leave the country to pick up your child.

1. Help Your Children at Home Adjust to Your Adoption Travel By:

  • Choosing a very familiar caregiver(s) that will come to stay in your home
  • Having temporary caregiver(s) maintain your child’s routine as closely as possible
  • Letting your child(ren) know where you are going and why
  • Giving your child(ren) an age appropriate time frame for length of stay
  • Reminding your child(ren) by stating that you’ll love and miss them
  • Telling your child(ren) that your time away from them is only temporary, you’ll be safe while away, and that you will be back
  • Skyping or calling daily to just touch base

2. Before Traveling Abroad for Your Child:

  • Check with your insurance company and find out what services are going to be covered
  • Contact your local county (in Ohio, the Job and Family Services Department) and ask about their Early Intervention Program
  • Check out which International Adoption Clinic will best suit your child’s needs
  • Find a pediatrician that specializes in international adoption
  • Contact local occupational, physical, and speech therapists and ask questions so that you can get a feel for whom you could work with, should your child need their services
  • Read some good material on attachment

3. Help Your Child Adjust Before Coming Home By:

  • Bringing pictures of yourselves, your children living at home, your pets, your home (inside and out), their bedroom, your car, etc.
  • Doing activities with them that encourages attachment while in country
  • Leaving something at the orphanage with them that will remind them of your (when you aren’t there)
  • Limiting time spent with them in country to only the orphanage and the hotel
  • Taking as many pictures as possible in country to being their life book
  • Asking to photograph the Orphanage Director handing your child to you

Good luck with your international adoption and we hope our tips will help your international adoption go smoothly!

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/21/2010

Help Your Child Adjust Before Coming By Tip #6

Asking to photograph the Orphanage Director handing your child to you.

Before you leave the country and return home to begin a new life with your child, we strongly recommend that you have someone take a photograph of the Orphanage Director handing your child to you.

This will visually help your child understand that they were not kidnapped or stolen, but that they were given to you.  With this visual aid, your child can build trust and security in you because they can see that they were placed in your care.

Moving to a new home is a huge change, especially when a child leaves behind all the securities and comfort that they had at the orphanage.  Therefore to help your new child adjust to their new home, it is important that they build trust and security in you.  As they move to the United States everything will be strange to them so they will need to be able to run to someone that they feel comfortable with.  This is where trust and security comes in, which can eventually be achieved with time and the photograph is a great start to a build a good foundation.

Well that ends it for our series! We hope our tips will help you on your journey with adoption as you begin your life with your new child.

You can always visit our web site at http://eaci.com for more information on international adoption or give us a call at 866-586-5656 to reach one of our consultants.

To learn more on attachment and bonding with your child, you can always watch our online video by clicking here or reach our social worker, Deb at 866-586-5656 ext. 116.

Stay tuned, we’ll have more helpful tips on the way!

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/18/2010

Spending Christmas with Your Newly Adopted Child

Christmas is only one week away and we would like to remind you what you should consider before celebrating Christmas with your newly adopted child.  So today we are re-posting one of our previous blogs to help remind you some pointers for a smooth Christmas.

If this will be the first time you and your new child will be celebrating the holidays together, you may want to consider these advice straight from our social worker to help your child adjust to the holiday frenzy without overwhelming them.

Before you begin making your holiday plans, remember to keep your adopted child in mind and consider some of these factors.

  • If your child has only been with your for a few months, celebrate the holidays alone and at home
  • Give your child the time to adjust and attach in the comfort of their new home
  • Explain to your friends and family that your child is not ready for a visit yet

Meeting so many people all at once can be startling to the child and terrifying.  On top of that, with so many people around you may not be able to give your child your full attention that your child may need, especially during the holidays.

Consider your child’s level of attachment and adjustment before:

  • Having overnight guests
  • Traveling/vacationing for the holidays
  • Switching routines/traveling may lead to some sleepless nights, picky mealtimes and tantrum behaviors
  • Minimize stress and over-stimulating activities
  • Opt for 1 or 2 average gifts rather than several gifts
  • Understand that changes in routines or travel at this time may trigger memories of your child’s past

You can learn more about attachment and bonding, through our online video featuring our social worker, Deb.

If you’re uncertain or have questions about your Holiday plans, you can reach Deb at 1-800-533-0098 ext. 116.  We wish you and your family a wonderful holiday!

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/17/2010

Help Your Child Adjust Before Coming Home Tip #5

Taking as many pictures as possible in country, to begin their life book.

Transitioning to a new home takes time therefore it’s always good to create a life book for your child as a memory of where they came from and how they got here.

You don’t want to hide or keep their past away from them.  Creating a life book  of your child allows them to understand that they weren’t stolen or kidnapped from the orphanage, but see that you took the time to be with them while they were in the orphanage.

The life book will not only help remind them of their past, but allows them to see that you are in their future.  In which, allows them become adjusted and more attached to you.  By taking plenty of photos of you and your child at the orphanage and then showing them to your child will take out the shock that they are no longer living at the orphanage.

To learn more about attachment and bonding, we’ve created an online video that speaks of methods and ways to help you build a foundation with your child.  Click here to watch the video.

Stay tuned!  With Christmas approaching quickly, we want to remind you what you should consider before making plans for the holidays with your newly adopted child.

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/15/2010

Help Your Child Adjust Before Coming Home Tip #4

Limiting the time spent with them while you’re in country to only the orphanage and the hotel.

The most important thing to help your child adjust before coming home with you is to have them become attached to you first, and to do so it is important to spend time with them.  What people tend to forget when they are traveling abroad is that when you are spending time with your child it is best to spend them alone.

When people travel overseas to pick up their child, they are more apt to feel like they are on vacation and are tempted to go sight-seeing which we understand.  However, we strongly recommend that you do any type  of sight-seeing on your own time not when you are with the child.

Many of these children have not been outside of their orphanage and have no idea what’s beyond its walls.  Therefore to take them out sight-seeing where they will be surrounded by strangers will cause over stimulation and it will digress any progress you have made to make the child more attached to you.

Although it may seem like a good idea to take your child out and go sight-seeing to help the both of you bond.  It is actually one of the most horrendous things you can do if you want to bond with your child, stated by our own social worker, Deb.  Instead of bonding, you will find that by taking your child out into public will backfire.

So to build a strong relationship with your child, we recommend that you spend time with your child at the orphanage and just at the hotel till it is time to fly back home.

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/14/2010

EAC Annual Holiday Party 2010

This past Saturday, we hosted our annual Holiday Party where kids had the chance to celebrate Christmas and hang out with Rudolph, Mr. and Mrs. Santa Claus.   The kids were adorable, as always, and their faces lit up when Santa walked into the room.  We would like to thank you everyone who could make it out to our Holiday event and made it extra special.




Visit our YouTube to view our Holiday Party video! Or Flickr to see more photos of our event.

If you would like to learn more about international adoption and about European Adoption Consultants, visit us at http://eaci.com.  Happy Holidays!

Posted by: eacadoption | 12/12/2010

Update on the Smith’s

On November 6, we posted a story about the Smith’s and their journey with international adoption.  Not only did they bring home a beautiful son from Russia, they later learned that their son had a baby sister located in a different orphanage in Russia.  There was no question whether or not the Smith’s wanted to unite the two long lost siblings.

Two years later, the Smith’s were able to bring home an adorable little girl, whom their son was so excited to meet for the first time at the airport.

Here is a picture of them now:

This will be their second Christmas together and we are so happy to hear that they are doing well and happy to be united together as a family.

To read and learn more about the Smith’s adoption journey, please click here.

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